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Tips In Choosing Your Bridesmaids And Groomsmen

While the two of you are the most important people at a wedding, half the fun is being able to celebrate and anticipate your big day with your closest friends serving as bridesmaids and groomsmen. While you may believe that you can simply gather your friends, assign them a bridal title, and call it a day, there are a few other factors to consider before assembling your wedding party. Here are five key tips from a central coast wedding photographer to help you choose your bridesmaids and groomsmen — and ensure your wedding party is one to remember!

Begin with your siblings Including your siblings as bridesmaids and groomsmen is a great place to start when selecting your bridesmaids and groomsmen. You may prefer to have them serve as ushers or junior attendants if they are much younger, but if they are close to your age, definitely give them the full honour. And nothing prevents a bride from appointing her brother as a ‘bridesman,’ or a groom from appointing his sister as a ‘grooms woman.’

Emphasise reliability

While you may not need your bridesmaids or groomsmen to participate in the planning of your wedding, there will be times when you will need to know you can rely on them. If your friend rarely returns your calls or is constantly late when you have plans, they may not be the right person for the job, especially with bridesmaid dress-order deadlines and tight timelines on the day of your wedding. Instead, seek out friends who you know will respond to your emails, arrive when you need them to (or a few minutes early! ), and are likely to be more prepared than you.

Consider personalities

Before you send out those “Be My Bridesmaid?” emails, think about your friends’ personalities.

” gifts, consider your wedding party’s compatibility. That doesn’t mean everyone on your list has to be the best of friends, but if one person on your list has a stronger — or even abrasive — personality and tends to irritate people, that’s potential drama you’ll want to avoid if at all possible. Rather, look for a group of bridesmaids and groomsmen who are friendly, cordial, and can easily transition between groups to quickly cross “fights between friends” off your list of things to worry about on your wedding day.

Be mindful of your budget We’ve all heard that being a bridesmaid or groomsman is an expensive experience. Even if you pay for their accommodations or contribute to the suit or gown, the bill for flights, gifts, and bachelor and bachelorette parties can quickly add up. If you know a friend is struggling financially, call them first to discuss your options before making an official request. Let them know you’d love to include them, but you also have a few other options for them to be involved if joining the wedding party is too expensive. Close friends make excellent readers, make excellent toasts at the rehearsal dinner, and could also hand out programmes or act as ushers at the ceremony.

Consider feelings.

Having fewer bridesmaids or groomsmen is sometimes the simplest way to ensure that no one’s feelings are hurt. If you have a choice between having just your sister and your childhood best friend stand besides you and expanding into two or three friend groups and ten or more bridesmaids, the smaller group could save you a lot of stress versus deciding who does and does not make the cut. On the other hand, if you’re set on having a large wedding party and have one friend on the outskirts, you might be better off including one more than leaving them out.